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5 TRAITS YOU SHOULD NEVER APOLOGISE FOR

My favourite kind of people are those who are completely unapologetic for who they are.
I think I envy their strength, awareness of their self worth and the importance of their own voice. 
I feel like those three things make the ultimate person, in my opinion and when I find people who possess them, I am completely in awe of them, especially women. 
I feel like we constantly apologise for being a certain way or possessing certain traits, which quite frankly I am sick of doing and seeing others doing it too.
Today's post is all about not apologising for being who you are & 5 traits that you should be admired for not avoided. 




#1 BEING PASSIONATE ABOUT YOUR OPINION

Something I know that is a love or hate thing with myself personally, is my passion to get my point across. A lot of my friends & followers on social media really respect and admire this trait and it's always the first thing people say they like about me, however there are lot of people in the blogging industry and beyond who don't like me for the very same reason.
Personally I really enjoy the people in my life who challenge me and others, the people who question everything and will happily debate with others about their opinions and passions.
Particularly on social media it's pretty clear from day one of following or meeting someone if they're someone who absorbs information or someone who challenges it and either way there is no right or wrong way to behave.
I have been called obnoxious, bitchy and even a bully for expressing my opinions in the past, but how does my passion for opinion make me any of those things? Imagine a life where nobody challenged anything in life and culture.
In my opinion there is no greater trait than being passionate about what you believe in, so stop apologising or holding back in fear that you will be criticised, your voice is as important than any other. Freedom of opinion is the greatest thing about social media, so don't be afraid to express yourself.

#2 BEING BRUTALLY HONEST

As the old saying goes honesty is the best policy.
Although honesty is extremely important for us to exercise, it can also be frowned upon in particular situations and scenarios.
I never used to bite my tongue when it came to being honest about everything, but as I have got older I have learned there are moments in life where your honesty should only be expressed when asked for it and that is something that is extremely important, because lets face it the truth hurts.
I will never apologise for or encourage others to apologise if the truth is worth telling, but often your honesty can land you on the over opinionated and bitchy list in people's minds.
Never apologise but approach honesty with care, never tell lies but always pick your battles.

#3 BEING A DREAMER

I am a total dreamer and people often criticise me for this.
I dream of totally outrageous scenarios and I am constantly dreaming up ways to make my life even better than it already is,
People often say to me "just accept your fate."
Why should I? Why should anyone just roll with it?
Don't ever apologise for being a dreamer, there's nothing wrong with having your head in the clouds.

#4 HAVING UNREALISTIC GOALS 

Me & Justin are equally as bad with our unrealistic goals, we constantly set ourselves challenges that often we just can't see out, and often it's "I told you so" or "You think you're better than you are".
I just feel like if you have unrealistic goals it encourages you to work harder than you ever knew that you could and what is wrong with that?
Similar to the dreamer trait ask yourself again why should you settle for less?
Don't ever apologise for having unrealistic goals, you are going to live once on this earth have unrealistic goals you never know what you may achieve.


#5 MAKING YOUR OWN HAPPINESS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY

Often it can be seen as selfish and self centred when you prioritise your happiness above all others, but why should we apologise for this?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your happiness first when it comes down to it. This doesn't mean you immediately don't think about or help others along your journey but ultimately whether we admit it or not it's always in our best interests to help ourselves first.
I don't envy people who can't prioritise the happiness of themselves and their families over their career or expectations of others, in fact I find it incredibly sad.
There's something really admirable about people who always remember how important it is to be happy and make that a priority, again, we only live once, so never apologise for that.



It's really interesting to see how different people express or defend their many traits, at the end of the day your traits are a part of what makes you, YOU and why should you apologise for being who you are? You just shouldn't. There are people in this world who will click with you instantly and there's people who you will repulse, but that's okay, the only trait you should never adopt is pretending to be somebody you're not, that's far worse than being over opinionated or a dreamer.
I hope you guys have enjoyed my post, feel free to reach out to me on social media or comment below if you liked this post.
I also have a new parenting blog coming during May so look out for that & make sure you're following if you're a parent or parent to be!





24TH BIRTHDAY WISHLIST

I am going to 24, like that's a proper adult age isn't it?
 I feel like the 'i'm young and young people make mistakes' excuse is starting to expire on me now, now I am supposed to know what I am doing with my life, what I want to be and what I want to achieve on this planet and in this life. I mean I think I know what I want for my lifestyle and family but I am not so sure when it comes to a career, i'm still a little lost.
I thought I really really loved what I do, but I don't know if I do enough to do it forever, so yeah this year has become a sort of 'decide what you want to be before it's too late' year.
Anyway, birthdays are my favourite, i'm centre of attention and it's nice to be centre of attention isn't it?
I am very materialistic, I can't deny that, so receiving presents on my birthday is like my favourite thing ever. I don't think I am alone on this, I just think I am probably alone with being open about it, I love pretty new things, okay!?
Today's post is a kind of wish list for all of you beautiful people to lust over but mainly a referral for Justin to get it right, this will make his life a little easier and I know that he will appreciate this window into my extensive list of wants and needs.




Daniel Wellington Classic St Andrews Watch, TopShop £159



If you have been following me for a while you will know I LOVE watches so much. I don't wear a lot of jewellery ever, but I have always had time for a classic watch. This Daniel Wellington watch is the essence of chic and timeless, I know I will get so much wear out of this one, just like my Oliver Burton one.





Gwen Stefani Eyeshadow Palette, Urban Decay £40.00




I am in love with every single colour in this palette and that is usually extremely rare for me. I have read so many great things about this that I am dying to try it out for myself. I have gold/hazel eyes so all of these tones are perfect for my eye colour, it was meant to be...










My favourite Spring/Summer scent is of course Marc Jacobs Daisy, in fact it's my favourite scent all year round. I usually get this for Christmas and my birthday because I literally go through this like crazy.





Morphe Brushes 694 15 Piece Wooden Handle Brush Set,  Beauty Bay £39.95

























I am obsessed with Morphe brushes and already have a large collection as it is, but a girl can never have enough brushes. I haven't got a few of the types of brushes included in this set so I am so excited to try them out.




Wunderbrow 1 Step Brow Gel, FeelUnique £19.95




















I have seen this used on Instagram so much and now that my ABH brow definer has run out, I am really keen to try the Wunderbrow brow gel!



iPhone 6S Plus Iridescent Glitter Case, Skinny Dip London £18.00




















I have had the rose gold iPhone 6S for a few months now and I haven't purchased a case for it yet, which is really naughty. Justin knows how horrific I am for dropping my iPhone constantly, and has been nagging me to get a case for so long. So, here it is Justin, here is the case I am willing to cover my rose gold beauty with, and isn't it something?! Skinny Dip London have dozens of BEAUTIFUL phone accessories and much more so make sure you go check them out.


That is all the things I want for my birthday this year, well most of them haha! I don't expect all of these by any means and I usually buy things I want this bad for myself anyway so I am excited to see if Justin pulls some inspiration from this post or not.
What are you wishing for your birthday this year?! Leave me a comment below if you've enjoyed this post and let me know what you're hoping for!

6 EASY STEPS TO BECOMING A FREELANCING PRO

It's been a while since I have done a blogging/freelancing post, so I thought I would give it a bash, since I just completed my first freelancing post that was unrelated to blogging.
I bloody love freelancing, I earn more from a day spent in bed watching Made in Chelsea and just working from my laptop than I do from a 6 hour shift at my part time job and that feels amazing.
OBVIOUSLY it is incredibly easy in the sense that you can work when and how much you want, in your pyjamas with a coffee in your fave mug, but it's not without extreme self motivation and imperative organisation skills that you can really make this more than a bit on the side.
I currently work 3 days a week in sales & marketing for a huge leisure business, 2 days on freelancing projects and 2 days on blogging. So no, I do not get a day off in the sense of not "working" or developing my personal brand to earn, but i'm okay with that.
Today's post is all about how I got to the point of landing my first freelance gig and lots of hints and tips for those who really want to start earning more or making a living out of the great opportunities that freelancing can provide.






WHERE DO I BEGIN?
The first thing you need to decide is your niche, what can you offer to potential clients that others can't? What skills and qualifications do you have? You also need to decide how many hours you are willing to dedicate to your freelancing work and whether you're ready to give up your free time for this and to dedicate X amount of numbers each week to applying for gigs, networking and obviously completing the tasks you have been given.


RELIABLE RESOURCES!
You really don't need much to get started, apart from the very obvious accessibility to a personal computer and reliable broadband connection, there are some essentials that are necessary for you to make a real go of this freelancing business, as follows.
A DIARY - I can't live without my diary, I would forget my head if it wasn't screwed on, let alone remembering deadlines for blogging & freelancing work. I make it part of my routine to check my diary every Monday to make sure I know exactly what I am doing at all times. I am a bit of a control freak but my life is SO busy, I have to write it down and find it really helps me to plan my working hours for my freelancing work.
A PLACE TO WORK - If like me, you have distractions like a two year old whirlwind running around your house at all times, sometimes things can get a little difficult in the concentration department. It's important for me to be in the zone when I am blogging which is why I only do it on Justin's days off, so that he can keep a good eye on our little monster. I work from my bedroom but I am working on converting our dressing room into an office. I think this is ESSENTIAL for anyone, kids or no kids to keep everything organised and to effectively, get in the zone for work. Also, if you are interested in customer service/sales you may need to make calls, so a peaceful surrounding is essential for most freelancing positions.
AN UNDERSTANDING OF INVOICING - Luckily I deal with invoices on a regular basis, and although they can be quite intimidating to look at, they are actually not very hard to create or fill in as you may think, here is a great article all about invoicing to calm your anxiety - https://www.crunch.co.uk/blog/contractor-advice/2013/06/17/how-to-invoice-your-clients/
MICROSOFT PACKAGES - Most of the freelancing work I get offered requires work to be completed on Excel or Word, it's as simple as that. I would say it is IMPERATIVE to have the basic microsoft packages and it really is a worthwhile investment, you can pay monthly, annually or buy a downloadable package for life right here.


LOOKING FOR WORK 
This is the most difficult part about freelancing finding work, luckily I know a few websites that will get you well on your way to earning some serious cash. You need to be persistent for sure and not disheartened by being beaten by someone else for the job.
Upwork << (My fave site for finding work by far)
Freelancer
People Per Hour
Freelance UK
Total Jobs
Indeed

Surprisingly Total Jobs and Indeed have more freelancing jobs than you might think, just make sure you search freelance to find and filter the correct jobs. All the others specialise in freelancing so get yourself signed up today and start applying!


MAKE YOURSELF A KILLER PROFILE
On the first three sites I have mentioned above, a killer profile is key to attracting work so it's imperative that you get it right. Upwork clients aren't interested in CVs unless they're looking for very specific experience, but 9 times out of 10 your ability to big yourself up and dazzle in your cover letter will be enough to score your first job.
It kind of needs to be like your LinkedIn profile and I actually used a lot of my LinkedIn profile for my freelancing profiles.
Be direct with your experience, knowledge and capabilities, and get to the point, nobody has time to read a 5000 word profile and nobody would want to if they did have the time. You need to summarise and be clear about what you can offer, how much you are willing to provide your services for and how much time you can spend on your freelancing jobs.


DON'T BITE OFF MORE THAN YOU CAN CHEW
I work part time, I freelance part time, I have a toddler and I have a household to look after. The temptation to pile on work when you see the potential £££ you can make is real. I have overloaded myself in the past and completely lost days of sleep trying to catch up. You need to ensure you don't do this and manage your time correctly. Having the right balance can really help you progress in the freelancing business and is a key essential to making this kind of work a more permanent existence in your life.

KNOW YOUR WORTH
As you progress and gain more freelancing experience you will be able to increase how much you charge for your services, but never take a job and invest your time in hard work for barely any penny, work out how much money you need to make from freelancing and start your rates there.
Most freelancing jobs are in US dollars so make sure that you remember to check out the exchange before you propose terms with a potential client.


I hope you have enjoyed this post about freelancing and I will be continuing these posts as I progress through my own freelancing journey. If you have any more questions about freelancing please don't hesitate to contact me via the comments or come find me on social media, I would be more than happy to help!